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Archive for October, 2011

“Truth or consequences, getting too much of a good thing”

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To say that our country has become extremely security conscious since September 11th, 2001 is an understatement.

Since this is primarily a Counseling blog, we could very appropriately say our country’s overt security concern has become a country engulfed in paranoia.

After the devastation of 911, increased security was needed for sure. But now even security has security within physical human abilities as well as software and computers.

An IT recently told this writer that all of the increased software and website security has become both ridiculous as well as useless.  He stated that anyone with a bit of program knowledge has the ability to go anywhere and do anything online. In fact when there are multiple safeguards it is actually easier to unmask vulnerabilities.

He went on to say that the truth is, there are actually consequences to “too much” security. Law enforcement seems to agree with regard to physical increase in human security stating that too much security often gets in the way of the investigation making it difficult to tell the difference between the good guys and the bad guys.

In general, as the old saying goes, “you can get too much of a good thing”. But in addition to that saying is the fact that often too much of a good thing such as increased security on security becomes a bad thing.

Case and point, most free web sites for the general enthusiast, hobbyist, casual writer, etc. are now almost impossible to link to on any of the social networks due to so much antimalware and antivirus software stacked on top of each other and yet most people today are already running their computer broadband connections through secure and near impenetrable routers or hubs which already need an army of techs to break through. Added to this is the usual free anti-virus and malware provided by their internet provider. In effect, it is just ridiculous and too much.

All of the major anti-virus companies have admitted that there is no longer any way to actually prevent a violation of security on line due to over protection.

Another case in point is the paranoia over background checks.  An average person is absolutely blessed if they pass on the first time around. Even churches have become paranoid, now being told or even made by their hierarchy to force background checks of potential pastors and ministers.

It is time that we as a nation calmed down. Yes be on guard but start to live again. We should set new goals and dream new dreams.

When a nation stops trusting its own people, it isn’t long before the paranoia turns to anarchy and the anarchy to complete destruction.

A 5-fold Plan to avoid or Recover from Anxiety

For readers of, this is a revised and edited article geared not just to suggest but to actually help eliminate and recover from anxiety. Please read the entire article to find the 5-fold plan.

Anxiety can strike anyone at any time.

This is a point reiterated to this pastor/counselor over 20 years of professional psychology and counseling practice and ministry and most recently

Stressed out?

by this writer to several writer and pastor friends.

It seems these friends and colleagues were surprised that this pastor/writer got frustrated and anxious as just as they did. Pastors and church leaders are just human and their friends, family and congregations should remember that fact.

Christians must remember that they are not impervious to the illnesses of life rather physical or mental and we are capable of everything a non-Christian is as well.

For far too long, the Christian community has associated mental illness with evil and sin and yet everyone is vulnerable to both. We should never assume that anxiety or even greater mental health issues or the resulting actions are sin. That is, unless the patient knows of their problem and fails to do something about it , then, the end result becomes sin.

The Bible teaches us that we should not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6

But even the most avid praying, Bible reading, church going and Christian fellowshipping person can be victimized by anxiety, frustration, depression and even severe mental health issues.

The stress of ministry on both ministers and Christian laity alike in the caring for people can be tremendous and it is often carried over into the home, family, marriage, job and even back into the church. These men and women have often visited this pastor/counselor’s study far too many times to describe here seeking counseling.

In fact, on an occasion this pastor/counselor/writer has even used fellow pastors, counselors and Christian Psychologist to consult for my own personal needs. It really helps.

One of the greatest solutions to anxiety is talking to a good listener about what frustrates you and what has you anxious. This is good therapy as long as it doesn’t become whining and a self-pity party. As the old saying goes, “nobody likes a whiner but everybody needs to whine sometime”.

It’s important to make sure that those we confess our problems to are honorable, level-headed and able to understand our need.

The Bible teaches us to “encourage one another and build each other up…”  1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV. So sharing with fellow Christians and members of your church family is a good place to start and the definitive word being start.

An area far too many people including Christians and pastors fall short in is thinking we don’t need to do anything more than just share the problems with friends or family which unfortunately often spreads that frustration and anxiety to the very ones we love.

We should remember that in the next verse of 1 Thessalonians 5 in verse 12, the Apostle Paul tells us to “…to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you.”

There are many theological interpretations here but the bottom line is we are being encouraged to seek out those who can really help us and that know how to listen. In essence, we should never count out using professional help such as a pastor/counselor, therapist, psychologist or even a psychiatrist. If you do chose to talk with your pastor make sure the pastor is trained in counseling and actually offers counseling services.

The bottom line is that anxiety does not have to engulf us or control our lives.

As a pastor-psychologist/counselor, this writer has developed a 5-fold plan to avoid or recover from anxiety:

A 5-fold Plan to avoid or Recover from Anxiety

By Dr. Lee Outlaw

Text: Psalm 27:1-14

The KEY is to R E L A X:

1.  R ely – on the Lord.  (Psalm 27:1a)

2.  E  njoy – the strength and confidence which comes from God.  (Psalm 27:1b & 6b)

3.  L  ive – with Godly confidence in yourself.  (Psalm 27:3-4; 13)

4.  A cknowledge – God by ASKING Him anything; tell Him what is on your mind. (Psalm 27: 4-6; 11)

5.  eXpect – a Miracle.  Wait on the Lord; He will take care of you.  (Psalm 27:14)

We simply need to stop, relax and bring that anxiety to the Lord in prayer and allow our frustrations to be known to those we are certain will listen and genuinely care.

If the anxiety continues and becomes all-consuming, never be afraid to seek out a professional counselor who is trained to find and help end the cause of your anxiety.

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