As a Psychologist, I am continually amazed at the amount of information people are willing to post about themselves on social media. Having observed this phenomenon for nearly a decade, it seems people become more emboldened each day with what they choose to tell the world about themselves.
These are the same everyday people that when I was in the ministry and private practice would come to me with a problem(s) yet reluctant to say anything; it was often near impossible to pry any information out of them. Many times, it would take weeks just to get a patient to open up enough for the two of us to have a meaningful dialogue much less the “Nitti gritty” of the problem.
Today however, people post any and everything on the web and especially social media; every conceivable personal problem (emotional or physical) is posted, elaborated, sometimes with photos and hundreds of comments from around the world are given.
It’s simply ridiculous. People on my social media pages have posted everything imaginable from their problem with toe fungus, corns and calluses, constipation, hemorrhoids, hurt feelings, depression, anxiety, what they’re having for dinner, their pet’s illnesses, whether they think someone is a liar or not, questioning or diagnosing mental disorders of friends or relatives, sexual dysfunction and so much more.
Again, these are the same people that will not seek out professional help.
With no apology, if I were still in private practice, I would consider having about half my social media friends temporarily committed for observation.
Seriously, what the hell is wrong with you people? I know many of you and some things you have posted on my social media pages, I just can’t believe.
I don’t want to hear about how your cat vomited all over you and the bed during the night, or how your hemorrhoids kept you up all night or why you think Uncle Jed or sister Sue is definitely Bi-polar or Schizophrenic or how you hope your boyfriend doesn’t find out about your one night stand with the guy you met at Starbucks on your way home from work; duh? He does now and so does everybody else.
The problems people used to bring to their ministers, psychologist, psychiatrist and counselors is now simply thrown out on social media like confetti being dropped from a tall building in a parade with their social media post dropped on anyone and everyone consequences be damned.
This is to say the least frivolous, irresponsible and (excuse the expression) just crazy.
Let me be clear, it’s not that I’m not concerned or don’t want to be your social media friend but frankly if you want to talk to me about it, contact me privately and personally.
I will be happy to listen as a Minister or Christian Psychologist or Addiction Counselor (take your pick, I’m all) but be prepared to sign both a hold harmless agreement and non-disclosure statement along with my fee of $125.00 CASH (I also take Pay Pal) per hour (for a fifty minute counseling session) which I will be happy to conduct in person or via video chat.
Then and only then will I l be willing to listen to your earth shattering problems and difficulties which you feel are so troubling that you must broadcast to the entire world over social media opening yourself to every Troll, Phishing scam, hacker, malware, ransom ware or worse and possibly losing everything you have including your very life.
Seriously people, grow up and stop thinking all of us as social media friends want or need to know everything about you; we don’t.
Posting too much information on social media is dangerous and psychologically speaking can speak volumes as to your mental and emotional state of mind.
If you are really troubled about something, please seek professional help.
© 2017 Lee W. Outlaw III, PhD